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A community collaborative serving death workers and death-curious folks in the larger Washington, DC, Maryland, and Virginia region

Issue #12, March 2026

Hi all ✨

This April, the DCDC steering committee will be hunkering down together for a one-day retreat. We’ll take some time to think about where this strange and beautiful collective might go in 2026: what do death workers in DC need from each other right now? What should we build together? What experiments should we try? What community collaborations will make our lives and work richer? 

While we’re off pondering the future, there are a couple of good ways to gather in the present: we’ll be hosting a workshop in collaboration with local collage artist Ray Orr this month (discounted tickets for members!). In April, you’ll find many of our members out in the wild at the Spring Fair at Historic Congressional Cemetery. And come May, a new offering: The Silent Book Club of Death at the MLK Library. 

In the mean time: tell us, what would you like to see? How can we support you? Send us your thoughts.

Looking forward to being with you soon. ✨

Robin Miniter, Co-Founder of The DC Death Collective

 

DEATH, a collage piece Ray Orr created for SQFT — a showcase celebrating emerging and established artists at the Asian Fusion Gallery in Washington, DC in 2023. She will be leading Still With Us: Workshop on Memory and Remembrance, on Saturday, April 18th from 1:00-3:00 pm.

✨Picking up the pieces: A conversation with collage artist Ray Orr✨

DC Steering Committee Member Leslie Tolf sat down with Ray Orr, a collage artist and the co-founder of Living Room, a neighborhood art space in Mount Pleasant, DC. She uses collage to explore transitions such as grief, rebirth, and the liminal spaces in between.

Leslie: How did you come to lead collage workshops?

Ray: I started collaging in 2019, when I began the “100-day project” and collaged for that period. I find collage to be the most accessible form of art, and I gave a talk about my process at the end of my 100 days. 

A few years later, I lost seven people and animals in just over a year, and I was suddenly faced with the unexplainable. I couldn’t put it into words, but collaging was a way that I could connect with myself and them, while trying to keep them alive a bit longer.

L: What themes keep appearing in your work, and what do they tell you about your healing journey?

R: I would sum it up as work with transition and liminal spaces. Life is constant change, and collage helps me make sense of that. It could be my parents’ divorce, a work career pivot, or grieving a loved one who passed.

I also keep experimenting. I created a poetry zine with collages for a friend’s celebration of life, and it was the weirdest, most fulfilling collaboration to date. 

L: For people who can’t come to the workshop, how might you suggest they do this at home?

R: The great thing about collage is how accessible it is. It doesn’t have to be a single medium; you might use photos of them or symbols, like their favorite flower. I also love working with handwritten notes from your loved one.  I would compile all your paper ephemera and grab a couple of books from the thrift store. Sit down, light a candle, and dedicate some time to thinking about this person. Maybe even speaking to them out loud. Put music on that they like. Just welcome the journey you're on and see what unfolds.

L: How do you choose your materials, and do they have specific personal or symbolic meaning related to your loss?

R: I love thrifting for a variety of books and have curated a vast collection of titles on the natural world (like butterflies and plants), ancient civilizations, ornate jewelry, and art. I work mostly in paper, but I have a piece in an exhibit right now that features glass shards.

L: How does the process of tearing, cutting, or layering materials mirror your internal experience of grief?

R: For me, the experience of collaging can give me a sense of agency when I feel powerless. It’s already cathartic to rip and tear pages out of books, and then you get to pick and choose what comes together and what doesn’t. It was really healing for me when I was in the midst of what I called grief soup. 

L: How has your work helped you move from a place of acute pain to a different understanding of your loss?

R: Grieving takes an undefined amount of time, and collaging allowed me to move through it in a meaningful way. It gave me something to physically do while moving through the feelings, which was really needed.

Join us for Ray;s workshop Still With Us: Workshop on Memory and Remembrance, on Saturday, April 18th from 1:00-3:00 pm

 

✨DID YOU KNOW THAT THE DCDC HAS A MEMBERSHIP OPTION?✨

Our supporting members are a growing community of people in the DC area who volunteer or work or have interest in death care. We are death doulas, officiants, grief guides, morticians, cemeterians, mediums, and even a death poet. We get together in person at brunches and other events, we hold online gatherings, we have a Discord server, and even offer death cafes and a book club. One of the benefits of supporting membership is visibility on our website directory.

Please e-mail us for a link to our supporting membership form. We recommend a contribution of $20 per year, though no one will be turned away due to financial circumstances.

 

✨WHAT WE’RE READING✨

by Ali Brill, DCDC Steering Committee Member

In January, the Memento Mori Book Club finished Amy Shea’s brand new (2025) book Too Poor to Die: The Hidden Realities of Dying in the Margins. The book focuses on what happens to folks that can’t cover disposition expenses, or go “unclaimed” at their time of death. I was excited to support the reading of this book because I love challenging the common saying, “Death is the great equalizer.” Those of us living in the U.S. know all too well that we do not live equally–why would we assume we die that way? We all experience death, as mortal beings, but death comes to each of us with different context. Too Poor to Die outlines some of the many ways human deaths differ based on levels of privilege and overall situatedness. I’ll leave you with an impactful quote from Shea: 

“Death is supposed to be the great equalizer. The thing we all experience regardless of our class, race, or any other identities we’ve held or experiences we’ve had in life. Yet not all deaths are created equal. Not everyone has a good or dignified death or is treated with respect and dignity once dead.” (p. 37)

Next up: A belated New Year’s challenge–Memento Mori: The Art of Contemplating Death to Live a Better Life by Joanna Ebenstein. This is a workbook style read, meant to inspire lots of personal reflection! In the spirit of starting the new year with more contemplation on our fleeting time as Earthlings, I’ve created a 2026 Memento Mori Bingo Board to pair with our reflections on Memento Mori (the book). If you complete a bingo pattern by our March book club meeting (& attend), I’ll reward you with a deathy treat 💀. Hope to see you there!

Ali Brill leads the Memento Mori Book Club in Takoma Park, MD

 

✨UPCOMING EVENTS✨

The selection of events below is hosted by DCDC members. For our full, more broad-reaching community calendar, head on over to our website.

 

💛 Demystify Death Nature Walk | Saturday, March 21, 2026, 3:00 PM-4:30 PM; Sunday, March 29, 2026, 3:00 PM-4:30PM 📍 Glencarlyn Park, 301 South Harrison Street, Arlington, VA

Join DCDC member and death doula Kristen P. Patterson of Sacred Journey Death Doula and a small group for an intimate walk in nature where we will connect the seasons of our lives with the seasons. We will contemplate our mortality through mindful observation of the natural world and gentle reflections, opening our hearts to wonder and joy.

You can register here.

 

💛 Death Potluck | Sunday, March 22, 2026, 5:00 PM-7:00 PM 📍 Capitol Hill Presbyterian Church, 201 4th Street SE, Washington, DC

Join us as we share a meal and talk about everyone’s favorite topic… death! How do we approach death? What does it mean to leave a legacy? How will we be remembered after we’re gone?”

Panelists: DCDC steering committee member Laura Lyster-Mensh; Rev. Rachel Landers Vaagenes, pastor of Capitol Hill Presbyterian Church; Karl Mattison, vice president of planned giving resources and of the Planned GIving Navigator Program at CHPC.

More info here.

 

💛 Living and Dying with Creativity | Group One: 4 pm: 3/23, 4/6, 4/20, with makeup class 4/27; Group Two: 7 pm: 3/31, 4/15, 4/28, with makeup class 5/6 | $50-$65📍 Zoom

Acknowledging and accepting that you will die provides remarkable opportunities to enrich your creative joy and more deeply explore how to live as fully as possible in the time you have. Join Sam Stebbins, End of Life Doula, Certified Interspiritual Counselor, Grief Educator, frequent Death Cafe host and retired physician in a three-session workshop to explore and use your unique creative spark.

E-mail Sam for enrollment. 

 

💛 Memento Mori Book Club | Sunday, March 29th, 6:00p |📍People's Book, 7014-A Westmoreland Ave Takoma Park, MD | Memento Mori: The Art of Contemplating Death to Live a Better Life by Joanna Ebenstein

RSVP here.

 

💛 Death Cafes at All Souls Unitarian Church | Sunday, April 5th, May 3rd, 2026| 12:10–1:30 PM 📍 1500 Harvard Street NW

Join DCDC steering committee member Leslie Tolf for a monthly cafe gathering. You can find more informaton here. 

 

💛 Still With Us: A collage workshop for memory and remembrance | Saturday, April 18, 2026 | 1:00PM-3:00PM📍 Living Room, 3169 Mount Pleasant Street NW, Washington, DC

This gentle collage workshop, facilitated by collage artist Ray Orr, invites you to honor and remember someone you love who has passed. Participants are encouraged to bring a photograph of their loved one and/or paper ephemera that belonged to them or evokes their memory. While the experience is personal, you’ll be creating alongside others in a quiet community, with no pressure to share. No prior art experience is needed. 

Tickets are available here, with a $5 discount for DCDC members

 

💛 Spring Fair at Congressional Cemetery | Sunday, April 26, 2026 | 11:00AM-4:00PM📍 Historic Congressional Cemetery, 1801 E St SE, Washington, DC

Meet DC Death Collective members at our table at the annual Spring Fair at Historic Congressional Cemetery! Vendors and activities. Free entry.

More information here.

 

✨NOW FOR SALE: THE DC DEATH COLLECTIVE MERCH! ✨

In need of a (dare-I-say-tres chic) gift? We now have merch available for sale!

Interested in becoming a member of the DC Death Collective? Join us.

 

Hope to see you soon. Until next time 💛

www.thedcdeathcollective.org ✨ thedcdeathcollectibe@gmail.com

Mount Pleasant, Washington DC, United States

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